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What ‘stops’ a positive force from leading Nepal ?

नेपालीमा यहाँ पढ्नुहोला

What ‘stops’ a positive force from leading Nepal ?

Nepal is filled with intelligent and talented Nepali who love their country dearly. Not a single day passes by when we don’t hear of a remarkable feat of a Nepali around the world. So here is a question for you.

“Despite many intelligent and talented Nepali like us,  why is our nation still stuck in a rut of poverty while our neighbors leap towards prosperity? Why do we keep falling from one disaster to another? Why do incompetent leaders who fail us repeatedly continue to rule our nation?

The real question is, what ‘STOPS’ us from creating that positive force which leads Nepal to prosperity?

The bitter truth is that “WE” – the most intelligent, talented and fortunate among all Nepali - are the key obstacle to getting the leadership Nepal deserves. Our cynical habits and fatalistic attitude consistently stop any credible leadership from rising to lead Nepal. Here’s how:

“Individually excellent, collective failure!”
We may have become experts and leaders in our fields. But we have become so comfortable in our own little cocoons that when someone dares to start on a nation building journey, it does not occur to us that we should help. We subconsciously fear that if we try to help, our carefully carved reputation might get stained. By refusing to align with other leaders we forsake succeeding collectively. As a result, while our nation reeks of failure, we stay cozy inside our bubble.

“My way or the highway!”
We believe that only our way will bring “proper” change in Nepal. We have a nasty habit of dismissing other’s efforts as useless or even outright harmful. Our narrow-minded arrogance has stopped many remarkable Nepali from coming together to solve our nation’s problems.

“We bask in the warmth of power.”
We often rely on the very corrupt people and failed systems we seek to change. We rarely reflect on the consequences of this, especially how it harms those struggling to ignite progressive changes. We often become bystanders in their actions. Only when they succeed, we enter to reap the benefits, not unlike parasites who leech on their hosts to nourish ourselves.

“They must only be after money!”
We are deeply suspicious of positive deeds. If a person starts something promising, we suspect ulterior motives behind it. Our doubts soon take the form of subtle yet vicious rumors spreading like ‘chinese whispers’ which isolates any changemaker. Unknowingly, we become promoters of a culture of pulling others down – “khutta tanne prabidhi”.

“Such is life” Yestai ho, Ke garne?” attitude.
Have you noticed many of our conversations usually end on this note!  We often blame our own “karma” for injustices we face. When we repeat this mantra of ‘fatalism’ daily, we unconsciously build an ecosystem that makes it harder for changemakers to persuade. We create a vicious cycle of resignation within us that dampens the drive for positive transformation from within.

“We over-promise, under-deliver”
How many times have we fallen victim to this? When invited to support a cause, even we are guilty of committing but rarely showing up. Even when we do, we seem to do it out of sheer obligation. We Nepali need to learn the art of saying “No”. We may dismiss this as trivial but to those seeking to transform our nation, these ‘no-shows’ and ‘unreliability’ slowly drains their efforts dry.


”I did them a big favor. They better pay back soon! ”
How many times have we heard this? Many of us have a habit of counting our favors and expecting immediate returns. We have little empathy for those who have dared to take the difficult path of transforming our nation. We often prematurely cut short our support leaving them in limbo.

‘Grass is always greener outside Nepal’
How often do we hear this, “Their children are already in America while mine are stuck here...” A Facebook status about winning US DV lottery gets hundreds of likes. But, a call for helping flood victims in Nepal barely gets barely a few. We celebrate relatives who leave Nepal but when one comes back, we howl, “Are you crazy?” Our towns and villages have become old age homes. Our youth are busy building other nations. Ever wonder who our leaders will be left to work with to build Nepal?

“Tomorrow when I wake up, let there be a prosperous Nepal!”
How many of us silently pray for divine power like Pashupatinath to come and save us, ‘the good ones’? We expect our nation to heal on its own without any effort from our side. We often confuse nation building as an effortless task ‘some-one’ else should easily do for us. Instead of lending hand to those patiently trying to build our nation, we are busy daydreaming that somehow it will magically transform overnight!

So until and unless we cleanse ourselves of these negative attitudes, habits and beliefs, we – the fortunate ones – will continue to be the biggest barriers to any positive force leading Nepal to prosperity. So instead of continuing to be a “leadership barrier”, if you want to to cleanse yourself  and become a “leadership builder” here are some of my suggestions.

1) Recognize a leader: do they practise what they preach?
Check whether they only pay lip service or actually keep their word. Instead of falling for lofty promises, find out if they have delivered in the past. Always champion those who under-promise and over-deliver.


2) Don’t “Aid”. “Invest”!
Future leaders need your long term commitment to change, not your one-time donations. If you can, invest your time directly. Otherwise, invest by giving resources or your network. Nation building is like raising your own child. It takes years before you see results. Imagine how rewarding it will be seeing these budding leaders grow and deliver in the future ( because of you). 

3)  “Leaders are built (not born or found)” Make this your mantra.
Buddha, Gandhi, Mandela, Mother Teresa’s journey to excellence did not happen overnight. Pele did not become Pele on his own. Continuous faith and support from citizens similar to you moulded and sharpened these ordinary beings into extraordinary. Today, you have this exciting power to nurture the leaders and heroes you crave for in Nepal. So, take control for raising the next Buddha right here and make our Nepal shine again!

4) Stop building another paradise, focus on rebuilding our own.
Nepal is a broken paradise. Over the years, we broke it. Now let us rebuild it. Instead of “building” already developed nations, why don’t we come together to rebuild our own? If you are outside, you can start building your own path back to Nepal by investing in positive changes here so that our paradise is rebuilt right here, with your direct help from there.

5) “Feed the hungry, not those already full”
Instead of continuing to support only those already powerful, how about giving a hand to those who need it. Those working for change are usually alone, starving for help. Embrace them. Instead of voting for those you think might win, how about voting for those who you believe are on the right path?

6) Help marathon runners, not 100 meter sprinters.
We usually fail right here. We often trust those who promise immediate results without questioning how they would deliver this. Change comes through persistence. We all know this. Let us build our patience to support these who are in it for the long haul and do not tire easily. If you want to see a nation transformed, seek those who are ready to run marathons, not quick sprints.

7) Embrace doers and bring balance to the system.
There is a deep imbalance in Nepal because those who prescribe change outnumber those who make that change happen. Planners, advisers and intellectuals alone isn’t enough to build our nation. We need to find and support the ‘doers’ who will dare to make that change happen.

8) Be that “first follower”!
To build Nepal, you don’t need to have a PhD or be inside the circle of power. Neither do you need to be inside Nepal nor do you need to be a citizen. All you need is to consistently care. The first few dedicated followers is most critical to any future leader. Will you dare to become that ‘first follower’?

9) Place your bet on the ‘outliers’ (mavericks).
Modern Nepal came to be because of one man who ruled over a tiny hill, Gorkha. Nepali history is filled with sea changes brought about by people who rose from obscurity. Therefore build that courage and determination to incubate the mavericks among us. Who knows, you might be the reason someone rewrites Nepali history yet again!

10) Spread positive rumors.
If nothing else, at least cultivate ‘positive gossip’ as a habit. Practice spreading positive news, however small, be it a teenager who volunteered to manage traffic or donated books, spread these type of news wholeheartedly. And please restrain that impulse to spread negative rumors. Disciplining ourselves around this single habit would do wonders for our national well-being.

In conclusion, I believe that leaders are not only those who lead, but also those who ‘build’ leaders. Nepal today needs leadership builders like you. While only a few may be able to make the sacrifices needed to become a leader, the rest of us are able to take up the role of building leaders simply by nurturing these leadership building attitudes.

Nepal is a paradise. To realize its true beauty, the first thing we need to do is to change our own attitudes. Let us not wait. Let us start building the leadership our beautiful Nepal deserves!

Ujwal Thapa
Building 21st century relevant Nepali leaders at BibekSheel Nepali Party’

Read in Setopati newspaper

समस्त ‘पशुका संरक्षक’ पशुपतिनाथ भगवानले हामीलाई किन रक्षा गर्ने?

Photo © Gemunu Amarasinghe/AP/Courtesy WSJ
Photo © Gemunu Amarasinghe/AP/Courtesy WSJ

समस्त ‘पशुका संरक्षक’ पशुपतिनाथ भगवानले हामीलाई किन रक्षा गर्ने?
एकातिर उनैले ‘रक्षा’ गरेको देशमै हामी पशुको भीषण बलि दिने आँट गर्छौँ। अर्कोतिर उनैसँग हामी आफू र आफन्तको ‘सुरक्षा’ मागीहिँड्छौँ।

गढिमाईले वा मनकामना माईले हामीलाई किन रक्षा गर्ने?
कुनै प्राणीको तन-मन छिनी हाम्रो मनको कामना होस् भन्दै यी देवीसँग बरदान माग्छौँ।

गोरखकाली वा समग्रमा काली-दुर्गा-भगवतीले हामीलाई किन रक्षा गर्ने ?
उनको नाममा दशैँमा गोरखा दरबारदेखि हनुमानढोसम्म बाटैभरि रगतको खोला बगाउँछौँ अनि देशमा काटमार कदापि नहोस् भन्दै उनैलाई कामना गर्छौँ।

देशभरि विभिन्न मठ मन्दिरमा कुनै प्राणीको काल हरण गरी हाम्रै काल लम्ब्याउने जुक्ति गर्छौँ। वाह! नेपाल बुद्ध जन्मिएको देश हो भन्दै एकातिर हामी चिच्चाउदैँ हिँडछौँ, अर्कोतिर विभिन्न चाडपर्वको बहानामा भीषण पशुबलि दिन आतुर हुन्छौँ। अचम्म लाग्दो!

कसैलाई यो कुरामा चित्त नबुझ्ला र तर्क राख्नुहोला,

‘यी त पुस्तौँदेखि चलीआएका संस्कार, चलन, रीतिरिवाज हुन्। किन यसमा टाउको दुखाई?’

त्यसो त सतीप्रथा पनि एक जमानामा रीतिरिवाज थियो। अहिले छैन। किन? कसैले टाउको दुखाएरै त हटेको हो यो। दासप्रथा पनि कानुनसम्मत थियो, पशुपतिनाथकै ढुकुटीबाटै पैसा झिकेर उन्मुलन भएको हो। छुवाछुत प्रथा समाजमा ब्याप्त थियो। यी सबै अहिले छैन। कमलरी प्रथा भरखरै हटाईयो।

अहिले बहुसंख्यक हामीले ‘भगवानलाई खुसी पार्न बलि नदिइकन नै बडा दशैँ मनाउन थालिसकेका छौँ। यस्तैगरी ‘छुई – महिनावारी’ प्रथालाई पनि घरमै समय सापेक्ष ढंगबाट सुधार गर्दै लगेकाछौँ। छाउ प्रथा विरुद्ध प्रयास जारी छ। छुवाछुत तोडिसक्यौँ। अन्तरजातीय विवाह पनि सामाजिक आदर्श बनिसकेको छ। भीषण गृह-युद्धबाट निस्केको देशले नै ‘आदर्शको लागि काटमार’ गर्ने प्रथालाई त्यागीसकेको छ।

भनेपछि अघि जे प्रथा थियो, अहिले पनि त्यही प्रथा त्यही स्वरुपमा रहँदैन। युगान्तरमा सबै चाल-चलन, संस्कृति र परम्परा समयसापेक्ष तरिकाले सुधार हुँदै जादोँ रहेछ। यसमा अब दुईमत रहेन। ‘सुधार’ विधिको नियम हो र प्रकृतिको आधार पनि हो। अहिलेसम्म त हामीले समयसँग मेल नखाने चाल-चलनलाई त्याग्दै गएको तथ्यमा हाम्रै ईतिहास साक्षी छ।

यसैले अब ‘भगवानलाई खुसी पार्न पशु बलि’ दिने प्रथामा पनि ‘सुधार’ को खाँचो छ। हामी बुद्ध जन्मेको देशमा भएकोमा बडो गर्व गर्छौँ। हामी पशुपतिनाथले रक्षा गर्ने देश भएकोमा ढुक्क छौँ। अब आफैँ स्वविवेक प्रयोग गरौँ। तपाईको विवेकले के भन्छ यो विषयमा?

फेरि सोध्नुहोला, ‘त्यसो भए के हामी मासु नखाने त?’

मासु खाने वा नखानेसँग यो लेखको कुनै सम्बन्ध छैन। पेट भर्नलाई तपाई के खानुहुन्छ त्यो तपाईँकै व्यक्तिगत मामला हो।

मेरो तर्क यत्ति हो कि, तपाई एकातिर दिनदिनै पशुपतिनाथ वा वुद्ध भगवानलाई पूजा गर्ने अनि रक्षा माग्ने, अर्कोतिर आफै भगवानलाई खुसी पार्न पशुबलि दिने प्रथालाई प्रोत्साहन दिनुचाहिँ भएन। हाम्रा यस्तो दुई जिब्रे व्यवहार देखेर भगवान कसरी खुसी हुन्छन् होला र? यत्ति एउटा कुरामा चाही स्वविवेक प्रयोग गर्ने कि?

‘यस्ता पशुबलि दिने प्रथा अरु देशमा पनि त छन्। उनीहरुले चाहिँ गर्न हुने, हामीले चाहिँ किन गर्न नहुने?’

अरुको देखासिकी गरी हामीले निर्णय गर्नु ठीक कि आफ्नै विवेक प्रयोग गरी निर्णय गर्नु ठीक? अरुले गरेको काम ठीक हो या होईन त्यो छुट्टाउने विवेक हामी हरेक नेपालीमा छ। अरुले गरेको गलत कामलाई हामीले अँगाल्ने कि उल्टो उनीहरुलाई हामीले सिकाउने ?

गढीमाई पर्व होस् या मनकामनाको पूजा, दशैँको अष्टमीमा होस् या अरु कुनै चाडपर्वमा ‘भगवानलाई खुसी पार्न पशुबलि दिने’ प्रथामा समयसापेक्ष रुपमा सुधार गरौँ। संस्कृतिले धनी हाम्रो नेपालमा चाडपर्वमा ‘मार्नु’ को सट्टा ‘बचाउने’ संस्कार ल्याउने बेला आएको छ। हाम्रा यी अद्भूत चाडपर्वहरुलाई सुधारमुखी तरिकाले परिमार्जित गर्दै अझ भव्य रुपमा मनाउनु पो पर्छ त! मनकामना, गढीमाई, गोरखकाली देवीलाई पशुबलिको सट्टा बाटो, कुलो, पुस्तकालय, चर्पी बनाउँछु भनी भाकल गरे कसो होला! यस्तै कयौँ समयसापेक्ष विवेकशील बाटो चुनौँ न हामीले।

आउनुहोस्, २१ औं शताव्दीमा नेपालमा ‘भगवानलाई खुसी पार्न प्राणी बली’को प्रथा उन्मुलन गरी बुद्धले सिकाएका पाठ र पशुपतिनाथले रक्षा गर्ने देशको मूल मर्ममा फेरि हामी हिँड़ने आँट गरौँ। अनि बल्ल हामीले कल्पना गरेको शान्त र संमृद्ध नेपाल हाम्रै कालमा देख्नेछौँ।

भगवानलाई खुसी पार्न अब मार्ने होईन बचाउने प्रथा शुरु गरौँ। चाहे त्यो पशु बचाऊ होस् वा प्रकृति, व्यक्ति बचाऊ होस् वा देश। यही विवेक हामी सबैमा जागोस्।

पशुपतिनाथले हामी सबैको रक्षा गरुन्। 

सेतोपाटी पत्रिकामा पनि पढ्नु होला।

देश बनाउने सकारात्मक शक्तिलाई केले रोकेको छ?


सकारात्मक शक्तिलाई केले रोकेको छ? (सेतोपाटी पत्रिकामा पढ्नुहोला)

प्रतिभाशाली नेपालीको कमी छैन। देशलाई माया गर्ने नेपाली पनि हामी उत्तिकै छौँ। हरेक दिन कुनै न कुनै अब्बल नेपालीले राष्ट्रको शिर ठाडो राखेको खबर सुनेकै छौँ। हामी नेपाली बाहिर गएर पनि मलेशियादेखि अरब देशहरु धानेकै छौँ भने भित्रै बसेर पनि आफ्नै लगन र मिहिनेतले नेपाल धानेकै छौँ। तर यत्ति धेरै राम्रा र प्रतिभाले भरिएको देश एकपछि अर्को बिपत्तिमा छिरेको छिर्यै छ त। पटकपटक असफल साबित हुँदा पनि उही नेतृत्वले राज गर्ने मौका पाएकै छन् त।

एकपल्ट सोच्नुस् त- अहिले यत्तिबिघ्न राम्रा र प्रतिभाशाली नेपाली हुँदाहुँदै किन सकारात्मक शक्तिले हाम्रो देशको नेतृत्व लिन सकेको छैन? सकारात्मक शक्तिलाई केले रोकेको छ यहाँ?

तितो यथार्थ यही हो- प्रतिभाशाली र ‘आफूलाई राम्रो  मान्ने’ नेपालीले नै रोकेका छन् सकारात्मक शक्तिलाई

तपाईलाई नराम्रो लाग्ला, अविश्वास पनि लाग्ला र सोध्नु होला- कसरी यस्तो पवित्र काममा हामी ‘राम्रा नेपाली’ नै बाधक भयौँ र? कारण- हामीभित्र केही नजानिँदो कुसंस्कार हावी छन्।

जस्तो कि …

१. ‘कोठाभित्र रमाउँदै ठिक्क… ‘

हामी कोठाभित्र रमाएका छौँ र समग्र घरलाई बिर्सेका छौँ। देशको एक क्षेत्रमा उत्कृष्ट बनेका छौँ तर उत्कृष्टहरु बीचको सहकार्य गरी प्राप्त हुने ठूलो प्रतिफल देशलाई दिन सकेका छैनौँ। अरु देश बनाउनेलाई मद्दत गर्दा आफूमा कतै दाग, हिलो, फोहर पो लागिहाल्छ कि भनी डराउँछौँ। अनि देश जति गनाए पनि नाक थुन्दै अा-अाफ्ना ‘कोठा’ मै रमाउछौँ।

२. ‘भोलि उठ्दा चट्ट देश बनेको हेर्न पाऊँ’

सिन्को नभाँची अकस्मात् देश र समाज सब ठीक भएको हेर्ने अपेक्षा राख्छौँ हामी। भर्खरै बामे सर्दै गरेको देश बनाउने राम्रा अभियान, सन्जाल, समूहहरु हाम्रो आँखामा त पर्दै पर्दैन। कारण, उनीहरुले गरेका कामका परिणाम त आजको भोलि आउनै सक्दैन। तर, हामीलाई परिणाम आजको भोलि नै चाहिएको हुन्छ।

३. ‘मेरो गोरुको बाह्रै टक्का’

कसैले शुरु गरेको सकारात्मक परिवर्तन हाम्रै तरिकाले चलेको देखेनौँ भने दुई सेकन्डमै त्यसरी त कामै छैन भनी आफैँ पाखा लाग्छौँ। आफूले देखाएकै बाटोमा हिँडेमात्र कुनै ठोस् समाधानमा पुगिन्छ भन्ने अभिमान छ हामीमा। प्रतिभाशाली नेपालीलाई एक ठाँउमा उभिएर राष्ट्रको समस्या समाधान गर्न हाम्रै अहंकारले रोकेको छ।

४. ‘यो नेपाल कहिले ढल्छ र अर्को नेपालमा जान पाउँ’

अझै यही भ्रमको खेती गरी बस्छौँ हामी। ‘कैले कली देवता आएर सखाप पार्छ अनि नयाँ नेपालमा जान पाउँ! कहिले पशुपतिनाथ रक्षा गर्छन् ‘हामी’ सभ्यलाई! कहिले जंगबहादुर निस्किन्छ र सबै दुष्टलाई काट्छ! कहिले… … ‘ यसरी हामी विकल्प बनाउनुभन्दा काल्पनिक विकल्पमा जान कुरिरहेका छौँ।

५. ‘बलेकै आगो ताप्ने हो’

हामी जहिल्यै बलेकै आगो ताप्न तम्सिन्छौँ। कसरी बल्यो, किन बल्यो बालै मतलब छैन। कयौँ बेला त हामी समाजका भ्रष्ट, गैरजिम्मेवार, विवेकहिनले बालेकै आगो ताप्दै रम्छौँ। परिवर्तन गर्नेहरुले बाल्न दु:ख गरेको देख्दा-देख्दै पनि सिन्को भाँच्दैनौँ। उल्टो आगो कहिले बालिसक्ला र ताप्छु भनी कुर्छौँ।

६. ‘पक्कै डलर खेती गरी रा होला’

कसैले केही राम्रो शुरुवात गरेको देख्यौँ भने मनभित्र दर्जनौँ शंकालु सोच आइहाल्छ। शंकै-शंकाले आफूभित्रको आस्था र सहयोगको भावनालाई निमोठिहाल्छ। फ्याट्ट कतै आफ्ना शंकालु दृष्टिकोण राखिदिन्छौँ, त्यही कुरो एक कान दुई कान हुँदै सत्य बन्छ। राम्रा गर्ने खोज्ने थाहै नपाई एक्लिईन्छन्। यसरी नजानी नजानी नै खुट्टा तान्ने संस्कारका प्रवर्धक हुन्छौँ।

७. ‘यहाँ यस्तै हो। केही हुनेवाला छैन’

यो देशमा अब केही हुदैँन भन्दै हामी आफूभित्र पनि डर जगाउँछौँ, गर्नेको पनि हौसला रित्याउँछौँ। जेको पनि सकारात्मक भन्दा बढी नकारात्मक तात्पर्य नै निकाल्ने गर्छौँ। यी मनको पिपले वरिपरि बल्न लागेको ऊर्जालाई पनि निभाउने काम गर्छौँ।

८. ‘भै हाल्छ नि, गरि हाल्छु नि – नो प्रोब्लेम्’

प्राय हामी ‘नाइँ’ भन्नै सक्दैनौँ। फेसबुकमा दश जनाले ‘आाउछुँ’ भन्छौँ तर वास्तवमा आउँछौँ मात्र एक। ‘मुखले आश्वासन, खुट्टाले धोका दिने’ चलन बोकी हिँडेका छौँ। आश्वासन भंग गर्न चानचुने कुरा लाग्ला तर देश बनाउन हिडेँकालाई यसले ‘स्लो पोइजन’को काम गरि रहेको हुन्छ।

९. ‘मैले त्यत्रो गरेँ त्यसलाई। खोई त मलाई पनि गरेको’

मद्दत गर्दा तुरुन्तै ब्याज खोजी हिँडछौँ हामी। राम्रा गर्दै गरेकालाई कतिपय परिस्थितिमा त बीचैमा मद्दत रोकी घर न घाटको बनाइदिन्छौँ। देश बनाउन हिँड्नेको जिन्दगी कहाली लाग्दो, तिरस्कृत, एक्लो, गरुङ्गो छ। यो यथार्थको रत्तिभर पनि सह-अनुभूति (एम्पेथी) राख्दैनौँ।

१०. ‘ओहो! फलानाको छोरा-छोरी त अमेरिकामा… ‘

डिभी पाउनेको फेसबुकमा सयौँ लाइक हान्छौँ। तर बाढीपिडितलाई सहयोग गर्दा त्यसको आधा पनि लाइक दिन्नौँ। इस्टमित्रले देश छाड्दा स्याबासी दिन्छौँ, फर्कँदा चाहिँ ‘बौलाइस् कि क्या हो?’ भन्छौँ। यही मनस्थितिले देशलाई वृद्धाश्रम बनाउँदैछौँ हामी। देशमै केही गर्छु भनी कम्मर कस्नेले कोसँग मिलेर देश बनाउने?

जबसम्म यी कु-संस्कारलाई हामी आफैले त्याग्दैनौँ, देशमा सकारात्मक नेतृत्व शक्ति बन्नको लागि प्रमुख बाधक हामी नै हुन्छौँ। यी कु-संस्कार त्याग्न मैले देखेको सर्वोत्तम उपाय भनेको त्यसको ठाउँमा नेतृत्व बनाउन चाहिने सु-संस्कारहरु हालिदिने हो। यदि तपाईँ जस्तो प्रतिभाशाली नेपालीले यसो गर्न थाल्नु भयो भने मलाई विश्वास छ, सकारात्मक शक्तिले देश हाम्रै कालमा हाँक्ने छन्। मैले समग्रमा बुझेका केही नेतृत्व बनाउन चाहिने संस्कारहरु बुदाँगत हिसाबले तल प्रस्तुत गर्दैछु।

नेतृत्व बनाउन चाहिने केही संस्कारहरु:

१. ‘माथि होइन तल हेर्नु’

देश बनाउन हिँडेकालाई कसरी चिन्ने? राम्ररी हेर्नु- उनको मुख मात्र चलेको छ कि पाइताला पनि? मीठो दर्शन भन्दा पनि के गर्यो, के गरिरा’छ, के गर्न ला’छ? त्यसैमा ध्यान दिनु। बाचा कम, काम बढी गर्नेकै पछाडि लाग्नु, उनैको हौसला बढाउनु।

२. ‘दान होइन, लगानी गर्नु’

देश बनाउन आँट्ने नेतृत्वलाई तपाईँको एक-दुईपल्टको अनुदान होइन, नियमित लगानी चाहिन्छ। सक्नुहुन्छ भने समय नै लगानी गर्नु, सक्नुहुन्न भने श्रोत दिनुस्। देश बनाउने नेतृत्व बनाउनु भनेको आफ्नै बच्चा हुर्काउनु जस्तै हो। ठोस् समयसम्म पाल्नु भयो भने ठोस परिणाम पनि देखाँउछन्, अनि अचम्मको सन्तोष पनि पाइन्छ।

३. ‘नेतृत्व आफैँ बन्दैन, बनाइन्छ- यही मन्त्र जप्नु’

बुद्ध, गान्धी, मण्डेला एक्लै बन्या होइनन्। पेले त्यसै पेले भा होइन। तपाईँजस्तै कसैको आस्था र निरन्तर मद्दतले तिख्खारिदैँ, उच्चालिदैँ यी साधारण मानव असाधारण महामानव बनेका हुन्। अहिले जिरोमा रहेका ती परिवर्तन निर्मातालाई आड दिई राख्नु, समयले हिरो बनाएरै छाड्छ! यसरी यो देशमा फेरि बुद्ध जस्तो नेतृत्व बनाउने जिम्मा लिनु त। नेपाली इतिहास फेरि हाँस्नेछ।

४. ‘बनिबनाउ स्वर्गलाई होइन, भत्केकै स्वर्ग बनाउनु’

नेपाल भत्किएको स्वर्ग हो। कम्मर कसे चाँडै बन्छ। विकसित मुलुकको बनिबनाउ स्वर्गलाई थप सिंगार्न लाग्नु भन्दा अभाव भएको आफ्नो देशलाई समृद्ध बनाउने बाटो रोज्नु। अवसर आफैँ बन्दैन, स्वयंले बनाउने हो। बाहिरै भए पनि नेपाल बनाउनेहरुमै लगानी गर्नु। आफू फर्कने बाटो यसरी नै खोल्नु।

५. ‘टन्न भाकालाई होइन पेट कराइरहेकालाई खुवाउनु’

श्रोत-साधन-शक्तिले टन्न भाकालाई समर्थन गर्ने कु-संस्कार छाडी मद्दतका भोकालाई हात दिनु। उदाहरणको लागि, यसले जित्छ भनेर होइन यसले सही बाटो समाएको छ भनी भोट दिनु। परिवर्तन गर्नेहरु एक्लो हुन्छन्, मद्दतका भोका हुन्छन्। उनीहरुलाई नै खुवाउनु न।

६.’१०० मिटर होइन, ‘रिले’ म्याराथुन दौडिनु’

छिटो पुग्नेलाई होइन, चाँडै नथाक्नेलाई खुरुखुरु मद्दत गर्दै जानु। धेरै जसो बेला हामी यसैमा चुक्छौँ। ‘तु’ पुर्याइदिने बाचा गर्नेको पछि लाग्दा घर न घाटको भइन्छ। दिगो परिवर्तनको लागि बटान पास गर्दै ‘रिले’ म्याराथुन दौडनेमै बाजी लगाउनु।

७.’नेपालमा बोल्ने-लेख्ने-पढ्नेलाई पुग्यो अब गर्नेलाई पालो दिनु’

सर्वत्र थाहै छ कि बोलाइ र गराइमा सन्तुलन नल्याएसम्म कुनै कार्य सफल हुँदैन। यसो गर्नुपर्छ भन्ने, लेख्ने, विश्लेषण गर्नेको अनुपातमा कार्य गरी देखाउने रवैया भएका निकै थोरै छन्। जसरी घरका हरेक खम्बा नबनेसम्म छानो ढलान हाल्न सकिन्न, गर्नेलाई बलियो नबनाएसम्म देश बन्दैन।

८.’मन जगाउनु- जगतै तताउनु’

नेपाल बनाउन तम्सिनेलाई मद्दत गर्न पिएचडी चाहिँदैन। आसेपासे पनि हुनु पर्दैन। अरु त के देशमै हुनु पर्दैन, नागरिक नै हुनु पर्दैन। केवल मन चाहिन्छ मन ‘पाशा’। कुनै पनि नेतृत्वलाई सबभन्दा महत्वपूर्ण मद्दत भनेको त्यही ‘पहिलो समर्थक’ बनिदिनु हो। त्यसपछि त ढिलो चाँडो वरिपरि तात्न थालिहाल्छन्।

९. ‘नेपालमा नपत्याउने खोलाले नै बगाउँछ – यो कुरो ध्यान राख्नु’

चौबिसे राज्य मध्यको एउटा फुच्चे राजाले नै नेपाल आँट्या होइन र? इतिहास पल्टाउनुस्- परापूर्व कालदेखि नेपाल हल्लाउने जति सबै नपत्याउँदा नै थिए होइन र? नसुनेकालाई मद्दत गर्ने चेष्टा गर्नु्। नपत्याउँदालाई नहुर्केसम्म हात डोराइहेर्नु न।

१०.’नेपाल ‘सकारात्मक’ हल्लै हल्लाको देश बनाउनु!’

अरु कुनै नसके पनि यो एउटा त पक्कै सक्नुहुन्छ। उठेदेखि सुतेसम्म राम्रै राम्रा हल्ला फैलाउनु। सानै हिमाल चढेको खबर किन नहोस् वा ट्राफिक स्वयंसेवक बनेकै, उनैको बेस्मारी गफ छाँट्नु। मुखसम्मै आइरहने ती नकारात्मक हल्लालाई भित्रै दबाइराख्ने कसरत दिनहुँ गर्नु।

नेतृत्व लिने मात्र नेतृत्व होइन, नेतृत्व बनाउने पनि नेतृत्व हो। मेरो लेखको सार यही हो।

नेपाललाई अहिले तपाईँजस्तै ‘नेतृत्व निर्माता’ को जरुरी छ। नेतृत्व लिन चाहिने सीप, त्याग र लगन जो कोहिमा नहोला तर नेतृत्व बनाउन त हामी हरेकले सक्छौँ। आफूभित्र नेतृत्व बनाउने संस्कार आजैदेखि विकास गरे यो देशमा सकारात्मक शक्ति, सञ्जाल र नेतृत्व बलियो बन्न केहीबेर लाग्दैन।

अन्तमा मेरो अनुरोध तपाईँजस्तो प्रतिभाशाली नेपालीलाई-

‘आउनुहोस् अब नकुरौँ, नेतृत्व आफैँ बनाउने आँट गरौँ !’


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Can social media help unite Nepal?


Nepal is not poor. It is just poorly managed. And to manage it better, Nepalese are finally getting a unique kind of help that comes in the form of “social media”. This time we citizens have a powerful ally.

This ally is an amplifier. It is neutral. it’s free. In-fact it is inexhaustible and almost indestructible. It makes every citizen have his/her own media.

This ally is ‘social media’. With social media’s help Nepalese are uniting resources, knowledge and action to build a prosperous nation within our lifetime.

So what is Social media, you may ask? Simply it is the use of Internet and mobile technologies to help you communicate simultaneously and interactively with millions!

Here is what I mean. In the old days, to talk or to seek help or to do business with someone you had to go and knock on their doors. Now our technology has reached a point where while sitting in our bedroom, we can actually knock on thousands of doors simultaneously!

In other words, social media makes it possible for you to have communication with tens of thousands at the same time! It exponentially expands your network from hundreds to tens of thousands. It actually strengthens our reach, our impact and our visibility.

Social media has opened uncountable ways for us in Nepal to finally help unite fellow citizens out of the chaos we inherited and into the prosperity we deserve. Just over a dozen years ago we had almost no mobile phones in Nepal. Now, more than 2 out of 3 of us carry one. 10 years ago, none of us in Nepal knew about Facebook (a social media tool). By September of 2014, there are nearly 41 Lakh (4.1 million) Facebook Nepali users.  In the next decade, every Nepali will be on social media.  And everyone will be using their mobile devices (phone, glasses, who knows what more) to do this. Imagine this, we all will chat, write, talk, do business and organize events right from the palm of our hands!

A girl in Humla will answer within seconds a maths question posed by another in Taplejung. A farmer in Rautahat will get advice from a facebook group members from the US on how to negotiate seeds at a bargain for the season with a seed bank in China. The seeds may even be parceled to his village within a day or two through a simple click on his mobile. He will watch YouTube videos on internet to learn how to take proper care of his crops. English to Nepali translation will be instantaneous (Local languages like Maithili, bhojpuri will be readily available).


With social media tools like Facebook, Twitter, Linkedin, Instagram or Whatsapp, the power we have is limitless and instant. What you choose to show, will be amplified to anyone, anywhere around the world. Your remarkable ideas will no longer be hidden from from the rest of humanity. Even to get services from your own government which could take months now, would be within reach through your mobile to be finished within a day at most. You will be able to track of the progress made by your public officials in making your passports or how local government is responding to your complaint about poor health service in your local hospital (step by step). Within seconds, you would be able to check your local politician’s history and the number of promises kept or not. You can immediately re-share the information you have dug up, with millions.  Information cannot stay hidden any longer and as more facts comes within your reach the more powerful our country and our accountable our system will be.

In essence, social media helps us align all the positives in the same direction, making negative irrelevant.

Here are 5  cases to showcase how social media is doing just that and transforming Nepalese and Nepal.

  1. Back in 2011, do you remember seeing photos of “Jamuna” a malnourished child from Rukum? People created facebook groups to support her, contributing hundreds of thousands of rupees, doctors volunteered to help, Nepali from Australia and US banded together to work with ones in Nepalgunj to save her life.
  2. A small project called “Shanti School” won thousands of dollars simply by rallying Nepali citizens to “like” them on a facebook “like” competition.  They went on to build schools and train teachers in remote Nepali villages. They won much visibility and donations through mobilization of friends in social media. Social media is helping unite us to help those less fortunate.
  3. Maggie Doyne, an American girl working with orphans in Surkhet ,manages to get on YouTube and share a  video which immediately touches thousands of hearts. She raised enough funds to unite Nepali orphans for a better future.
  4. OccupyBaluwatar, Nepal Unites, Paschim Paila, Help Nepal Network, Save Dorje Gurung (in Qatar) and hundreds more Nepali campaigns have used social media effectively to push for citizens and organizations to unite with helpless Nepalis to solve big and small problems.
  5. A remote health clinic in Achham called Possible (formerly ‘nyaya’), share their stories on facebook to tell well wishers and donors living thousands of miles away, each life they save and details of every rupee they spend. What a way to unite the less fortunate Nepalese and fortunate citizens of the rest of the world, towards a healthier future?

Thanks to social media, the unorganized here in Nepal are finally organizing into platforms. Tired of forced strikes ‘bandhs’? Join anti-Bandh groups on facebook. Want to build entrepreneurs?  Fight for consumer rights? Hold politicians accountable? or simply want bike modification laws changed in Nepal? There are groups for each issue.  Youths and elders are uniting to clean up of squares, rivers and communities themselves. With the help of social media, Nepalese have finally restarted working together as a nation, to help realize that prosperous Nepal we all have dreamed for so long.

With great power comes great responsibility. I believe we will harness this great power so that Nepalese help Nepalese! I hope we use social media responsibly to build more positive networks and platforms to solve every problem we come across. Lets go! The entire world is our ally now.

In the end, I leave you to ponder over this:

‘If you align all the positives in the same direction, the negative becomes irrelevant’

What is 21st century relevant leadership for Nepal?

“What is 21st century relevant leadership for Nepal?”

(नेपालीमा पढ्नुहोस् )

In the past few months, there has been a lively discussion in the national media. All about an acute need for an alternative ‘political’ force in Nepal. I am encouraged by this intellectual discourse which surely will help build 21st century relevant leaders for Nepal. Thank you everyone who have consistently kept this important agenda into the limelight.

Here are my 2 years of fresh experiences building a political force in Nepal that would be relevant for the 21st century.

2 years ago, Nepal was going through a tumultuous period. A syndicate of incompetent political parties who had little will or vision were taking turns ruling Nepal. Bitter political wranglings topped by acute corruption was rapidly dismantling any good governance we had left. All of a sudden, Nepal’s constitution building body was abruptly dissolved, leaving behind a power vaccum with a deeply divided society.

This created much hatred towards the country’s political forces. Every Nepali then, had only one question in their minds, “ (Oh god!) What Next?”

At such crucial times, many Nepalese from different professions and backgrounds came together and started searching for an answer to this “What Next?” We publicly brainstormed for 22 continuous weeks taking feedbacks from more than a 1,000 concerned Nepalese from all walks of life. Students ,house-wives, CEOs, teachers, social workers, businesswomen, everyone had one consistent advice for us. “Only a 21st century relevant leadership carrying political force would end this ever-growing crisis and help bring about lasting positive transformation for Nepal. This laid the foundation for “BibekSheel Nepali” party.

“So what is 21st century relevant leadership for Nepal?” For the last 2 years, we have built Bibeksheel Nepali from ground-up by answering this pertinent question. We identified 12 key 21st century leadership values/traits a political force should have to lead us to a prosperous Nepal within a generation.

  1. Results oriented & pragmatic: A political force has to be simply results-oriented, with an evolving, pragmatic philosophy to help meet that. It’s foundation would rest on at least these eight 21st century basic values; responsibility, accountability, prosperity, empowerment, freedom, diversity, servant government and pragmatism.
  2. Follow the middle path (balance): This progressive force follows a middle path whereby on one hand, it inspires citizens to be responsible while simultaneously builds systems to hold leaders accountable. It plays a delicate balancing act by enabling citizens to become the agents of prosperity while also building a servant government system that guarantees public welfare for those in need.
  3. Moderate views: This moderate force has a leadership that prescribes balanced, pragmatic solutions to keep this country united and progressive.
  4. Equitable prosperity: It doggedly drives the country towards ‘equitable prosperity’, concentrating politics on an economy that provides opportunity for every citizen to prosper.
  5. Systemized: In Nepal, the crux of the problem lies not in an person but in their system (culture). Hence this political force will rely upon a effective system and not on individual charismatic leaders.  It’s structure is made of 3 parallel ‘check and balance’ systems; the legislature, executive and judiciary. Just like an effective 21st century democratic government. The legislature is made of politicians who want to get in to government to rule (like any traditional political party). The executive has managers and experts who professionally manage the organization efficiently and transparently. The judiciary has those whose primary goal is to keep up discipline, protect the values (culture) and the constitution of the organization at all costs. These 3 wings independently and inter dependently work with each other to check and balance each other. This ‘check and balance’ system makes this political force run accountably, transparently and effectively.
  6. Self reliant members: The primary reason Nepal’s current political forces are corrupt and thus inept is because their members (cadres) are often reliant upon others for their daily livelihood. This problem has to be tackled at its roots. That is why any 21st century relevant political force has to make sure its members become self-reliant by being entrepreneurial or self-employed, or simply employed. This way, the party members do not have to compromise on their ideals and values because of their family’s livelihood concerns!
  7. Values based: A political force will still survive even if there are sharply differing views, policies or working styles between its members. But it shall self-destruct if its members don’t carry within themselves the same values of the institution! In order to always stay on the right path, this power has to provoke its members to live up to its core values.
  8. Meritocratic leadership building system: It consistently trains and produces leaders who not only know how to get elected but also how to consistently deliver once they are in the government. The leaders produced will be skilled at creating win-win environments. Their contributions are calculated on the basis of their merits and judged using scientific performance measurement systems.
  9. Transparent: It will be a model of transparency for others. From fund-collection to expenses to decisions, it will inject transparency into every level of its system.
  10. Regular leadership change (regular power fluidity): In the end, absolute power and position corrupts absolutely. That is why an alternate political force has to build a system that regularly and consistently filters its leadership.
  11. Youth centric: Youths will make the bulk of this political force. And thus it will be led by youthful leadership who will enthusiastically spread its core values to all corners.
  12. Marathon runners:  It does not run like a hundred meter sprinter, but more so as a relay marathon runner in any agenda it takes up. In Nepal, only such power will win which is not overtly opportunisitic but actually spends more time to persistently builds enough stamina to outlast everyone else in the work it handles.

You might ask, would such a political force succeed? Using these ideals, we ran in Nepal’s 2nd constitution assembly elections in the November of 2013, in 4 tough test areas in Kathmandu The constitutencies 1, 4,5 and 8 where we ran were one of the toughest because we were up against political heavyweights of Nepal. In only a month-long shoestring campaign, We took the symbol of a “dog” securing a respectable 5th place out of 26 or more political parties in 2  test areas ( 6th and 7th in the other 2). In these test areas, we managed to prove ourselves as a force to be reckoned. Going forward, we have already reached more than 100,000 Nepalese from 73 districts out of 74 in Nepal and created an informal network in 25 different countries.

Because of these 21st century relevant leadership values we have incorporated in the past 2 years, we are now confident of this. The only forces that will lead this country in the future are going to be the ones that consistently create a win-win environment.

In conclusion, the end goal of any political force who wants to stay relevant in 21st century Nepal should be to build a peaceful, prosperous Nepal within our life-time. And the only ones to make sure this are those stacked with 21st century relevant leaders.